Why Thanksgiving And Valentines Day Are The Same 2.0
Each February when Valentine's Day rolls around once more, you've likely heard the phrase, "You don't need a holiday to tell someone that you love them! It's silly!" I can agree to that statement. But still, my husband and I get into the spirit anyhow and write little love notes to each other. But anyway, it isn't exactly 2017 yet, is it? So why rush talking about Valentine's Day? Well, because Thanksgiving is coming up, of course, this week, no less!
I know, I know. Cue the "What is she talking about?" While the two "holidays" certainly do not share very many similarities, what with turkeys and pie with one and hearts and chocolate on the other end of the spectrum, I have found that there is one thing that the two days have in common with one another. To me, and this is only my opinion, just an opinion, a majority of people only take the time out at the tail end of November to voice what they are thankful for.
This seems silly to me. Why should we take only one day out of the entire 365 days we have each and every year to be thankful and grateful for what we have? Why not do it every single day. Keep a gratitude journal, or quietly reflect each day? We shouldn't need a holiday to do this.
Why should we wait until the end of the year to give thanks for what we have? If you ask me, we should take a few short moments out of each and every single day to remember what we are thankful for. Life moves past us so fast. In the blink of an eye, our babies go from newborns to toddlers, from toddlers to children, from children to high schoolers, and high schoolers to college students. You get the idea. Soon enough they're getting married and having children of their own. Life doesn't stop for anyone, it is a constant march of time, and we have to march along with it.
A reoccurring theme that you'll find in my writings is that I am a staunch advocate of living in the moment, enjoying today. Life is so, so short, and there is so much out there to see, and an endless amount of things to experience. People to meet, friends to make, places to see, things to do. It' is always important to reflect on what we have, rather than focus on the things that we don't have. I'll give you a great example below.
As many of you know, my husband and I are physically separated because of our fiscal situation. But we are not separated in spirit or in heart. We still love each other to death, he is my rock, and he can always sneak a giggle or two out of me when I am feeling down. Now, I could sit here and wallow, and I'm not going to lie to you. There are days where I wished we could be together NOW. But in a way, I am grateful. Grateful, really, you ask?
I am. This gives us both time to reflect upon ourselves and mend any problems there were in the relationship. This gives him the time he needs to go to school - he is studying to become a paralegal! It gives us time to reflect upon ourselves. We still see each other almost every single day, when he isn't at school or work. And I know that once he gets his degree, and lands a job, we'll be back together. Yes, time is marching on, and we're going with it. But we also have the rest of our lives to spend with each other, so I try not to worry about it too much. We'll get there. I know we will. Point is, I am grateful for our time apart as much as I am incredibly thankful for our time together.
I'm not saying that every single person is like that. I know that isn't true. But from what I have seen, a majority of people use Thanksgiving as a day to make themselves look better by listing what they are thankful for. While it's nice to share, I think that social media makes this problem even worse, and it rules so much of our lives already, that it is important to keep some things private. I could list what I am thankful for here in my blog, I would rather reflect on it personally, during that special time, right after my son goes to bed, and I am alone and it is quiet. That is when I reflect on what I am thankful for.
Thanksgiving isn't so much a holiday to be celebrated to me, as it is a state of mind.