The Marriage Contract: Or Why We're Putting It Down On Paper

Recently, well, in between my stepfather's death and getting back to life as normal, my husband and I have had some really stressful times. I'm talking major-mondo-crazy stressful times. We can't even afford where we are currently living, which means that we are going to have to move back home to my mother's home with a five year old. 



Granted, we lived there when we first got married and had a newborn. This is going to be a totally different experience. But I digress. This is the reason why the husband and I are so stressed. We're scared to death about money, buying food, the whole shpiel. It's upsetting, and I know, I know that money is the number one cause of ending relationships. Well, the other day, we almost hit our breaking point. So much so that I left the house and went to my mother's for the night. 

I truly thought this was the end for the two of us. And this is the man, and when I say the man, I mean the man, the only one that ever understood me for who I was, got my sense of humor, and even still thinks I'm beautiful even though I lost my teeth due to medication side effects. I mean, c'mon. I've got to be smarter about this. 



So, my husband and I came up with the idea of a marriage contract. Something that we are going to draft up together, something that we are going to put in writing, and then we are going to sign it. Sure, it isn't truly legally binding, but to us, it means something. We aren't perfect, we know that. We acknowledge that, and that is one of the first tenets of the marriage contract. 



Needless to say, the next two months are going to be ones filled with strife and chaos, because we are moving yet again, back to my mother's home (I feel like such a failure when I say that.) But I know that we are going to make it through, as long as we lean on one another, and not turn away from each other in times of strife. Also, obviously, we've got to be 10000millionbillion times smarter with our money. 

So tell me, what are YOUR favorite finance blogs? I'd love to learn me some about budgeting, finances and more! 

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6 comments:

Melissa Matters said...

Oh, I'm so sorry you are going through some tough times. I think a marriage contract is a wonderful idea and it's awesome you two are being creative to keep your marriage alive.

Theresa A said...

I am sorry you have been going through difficult times. It is good that your mother is so supportive. The marriage contract is a very creative idea to keep the two of you focused on your goals together. I wish you the best in this new transition.

Ellen Oliveira said...

We sold our house about a month ago and the contract on the new one fell through. So we're now living with my in-laws. So I understand and I wish you luck on the move and wish for the bond between your husband to strengthen.

shelah moss said...

I am sorry that you are going through difficult times, but you seem to be a strong woman. How wonderfully proactive you and your husband are to acknowledge what you are struggling with and to work together to fix the issue. In no way are you a failure by moving in with your mother, what you are is someone who is smart enough to know when to cut your losses.

CourtneyLynne said...

Omg so sorry about everything you are going threw! If it makes you feel any better they just cut all
My hubby's overtime at work. We have lived the last few years and got so comfortable living a certain way and now to have to cut back and live off of a normal paycheck... It's been a reality check for us. We are now considering selling my dream house and moving to where my hubby can get a better job. I hate where we live (town wise) so the moving part is exciting Atleast lol.... Trying to find a positive ;-)

Ai LTM said...

Sorry you're going through such a stressful time. Money problems shouldn't have to get in the way of a committed relationship, but sadly, it happens, as you said. Marriage takes work, and it's encouraging to read that you and your husband are taking solid steps to go through the financial storms TOGETHER. When my husband lost his job, I turned to couponing to reduce many of our expenses. A few dollars saved here and there did add up.