Positivity In Pain: Finding Joy And Happiness Despite Chronic Pain



I've been living with chronic pain for a long time, since I was a teenager. When I was fourteen years old, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia syndrome. At seventeen, Endometriosis. Somewhere in between there, Degenerative Disc Disease, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease, as well as a whole host of other ailments. I had to carry medication everywhere I went. I felt like a walking pharmacy. It was awful. I quickly fell into a deep spiral of depression that I found it hard to pull myself out of. I even attempted suicide at one point, because I felt my life was not worth living if I had to live with this pain.

Then, after my suicide attempt, I began to pull myself up and out of that dark hole I had lived in for so long. I looked at life in a different way, I learned to take pleasure in the little things in life, instead of taking them for granted like I had in the past. Life is short and fleeting, and I realized that if I don't do something with this one life that I had been given, then that truly was what giving up was.

Positivity in Pain is a project that is rooted in humble beginnings. It began as a small idea, a blog, where others living with chronic pain could come and swap stories, share coping methods, talk about their daily lives. Then, it grew to something so much bigger than any of us. We have a community filled with love, hope and inspiration. It is something so special.

I began working on a book that took me over three years to finish. But I am proud to say that I have finally finished that book, chronicling my journey living with chronic pain, and what I have learned, as well as coping tips and techniques for those who are living and thriving with chronic illnesses. Just because we were dealt a shitty hand in life, it certainly doesn't mean that we have to throw in the towel and give up.

That is why I am asking for everyone's help. We are trying to get Positivity in Pain out into the world, in a physical book form, as well as the e-book format it is already in. But so many people want something real, something tangible that they can hold in their hands. And, in the world of chronic pain, we deserve that.

We need something that we can hold steadfast to in the midst of the never-ending siege of pain that we feel on a daily basis. Please help us bring this book into the world, be a part of something incredible!   But we cannot do this alone, we need everyone's help! Even if you cannot donate, anything helps, a mention, a share on social media, would mean the world, not only to myself, but to the thousands of millions of people out there living with chronic pain. If we can put a book into their hands, who knows, maybe we can even save someone's life.

Please, please, if you can find it in your heart to help us in our campaign, we would be eternally grateful. We even have some really great perks available to those who donate! Please click on the widget below to be taken to our Kickstarter page where you can help us by backing our campaign or sharing it with your social media following!

From myself, and all those suffering with chronic pain, but not letting it get them down,

THANK YOU! 





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Masshole Mommy said...

I can not even imagine what that must be like, but I love your positive attitude.

Liz Mays said...

I wonder if there are facebook groups or forums with fellow sufferers. If so, I would think that would be a great audience to help you reach your goals!

Devon Copsey said...

I can't image what you have went through. I admire that you have pulled yourself out of the dark and are trying to help others.

heather meads said...

What a great attitude, best of all to you and others that suffer with chronic pain.

Jessica Harlow said...

Living with chronic pain can be so painful...physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It is so important to give people an outlet to discuss, learn, and just vent.

Julie Claveau said...

Oh wow, that must be so hard! I find your positive attitude inspiring.
Julie | http://www.xfallenmoon.com/

Kristen Kelly said...

Wow! Thank you for being so transparent. I am sure others who are suffering from chronic pain can really benefit from hearing your story. I hope you get the support you need to get your message out there!

Alyssa Zapinski said...

Thank you, thank you for posting this! I was just diagnosed with Fibromyalgia two weeks ago (on my 20th bday). I wrote a post about what it's been like and being brave through the crazy. I am so saving this.

xo
alyssa nicole

(my post: http://shedancesbrave.blogspot.com/2015/03/officially-fibro-girl.html)

premar88 said...

Thanks so much for being brave enough to share your story and try to help others your right this message needs to go out to the world they are so many people who could use it

Fred Hawson said...

You are so honest with your pain, both physical and emotional. I am happy to read that you have drawn yourself out of negativity to embrace the positive things life can offer you.

Amber Albright said...

So glad you are still here to share your story and help others along the way. Amazing!

Carrie Chance said...

Thank you for sharing your story. You are so inspiring.

Literary Winner said...

I think even those not in pain take little things for granted. While it may be harder, I think it is crucial for survival for those dealing with chronic pain. Thank you for sharing your story.
PS - I grew up in NJ :)

Gigi Parker said...

My best friend has Fibro and I see what she has to go through - not only with the pain, but in how others misunderstand it and not take the condition seriously simply because it's nothing they can 'see'. I will definitely pass this on to her and she can share within her network as well! Good luck to you!

Michelle Martinka said...

Wow. Your story is so hard, but you are so positive. I applaud you for both sharing, and pulling yourself from the depths.

Corina Ramos said...

A friend of mine suffers from Fibromyalgia and in her words "it kicks her a%$".

Good for you that you're helping others.

Maggie King said...

Fibromyalgia is a horrible disease! You should be proud for standing up for yourselves and others who have it!

Kimberly said...

Thanks for creating an awareness and also reminding us that those who suffer can also find happiness.

Ron Leyba said...

Very enlightening post! Thanks for sharing your own take about finding joy despite the pain. Keep on inspiring!

Tiffany Yong W.T. said...

Thanks for not giving up and persevering despite the pain. I'm glad you survived the difficulties, showing any one out there who's in similar situation as you, that they are not alone! Keep it up!

Maggie Makris said...

Such a great piece or writing, it shows, courage, strength and the will to hepl others.I understand what you're going through. My dad passed away to Cancer and for two years he was in pain.... no other words. May God keep giving you what you need so you can help others :)

Alissa said...

You are so brave and inspring. I can't imagine being in your shoes but you've handled it good. Keep the positivity alive and I hope you'll get through the challenges

Mazino Oyolo Kigho said...

I must really admire your courage and strenght you put to overcome all of these. Many people like yours are depressed as a result of both physical and emotional. I believe your story will be a source of inspiration to them.

Kristen said...

I admire you so much for sharing your experience. You are truly an inspiration1

Mia Foo said...

i can't imagine what you've gone through. it's truly amazing that you've managed to pull through and is now inspiring and helping many others. will definitely retweet this to share awareness!

Jess Benoit said...

I am so glad that you are able to have a positive attitude about all of it now!! I suspect Fibro for me since it runs in my family along w/ IBS. Keep your head up! :)

Christine Cox said...

Prayers to you and good luck with your campaign!

shauna krantz said...

great attitude!

Katriza Luna said...

I can't imagine chronic pain! Though my OB said that after my labor and delivery, the SPD pain I have had all throughout might be permanent! Yikes! I admire you and I hope if my pain does not go away, I can find joy and happiness despite it all! Thanks for sharing!

Dhemz Apdian - Dias said...

sounds like a great campaign....just hang in there...keep the good vibes around!
www.gregdemcydias.com

Yona Williams said...

That is certainly a lot of obstacles that you have had to and still are overcoming. I have donated to your cause, and spread the word. It's not much, but I do know that every little bit does help!

SFR said...

Oh love, what an absolute journey you have been on through your life. Fantastic news on finishing your book - can't imagine what you have been through but hope your book certainly helps others who are suffering. Sim xx

Nicci said...

I'm glad you found a positive outlet for your afflictions. I can't imagine dealing with daily pain like that, but I'm happy to hear you are strengthening yourself and willing to help others with their pain too. Good luck with the book!

Raymond Vasquez said...

I admire your positivity. THat's unbeatable! I am blessing you now with more positivities! More positive energies! I can't even figure out if I could bear if I were in your shoes. God bless you more! :D

Donella Crigger said...

This is a wonderful thing that you're doing. My step-mother has chronic pain, and it's hard for people to understand how that affects her daily life.

Nicol said...

i always find everyone who suffers from chronic pain inspiring!

mail4rosey said...

I love Liz's idea above. I've seen great initiatives being met through the collaborative efforts online. Wishing you so much luck in meeting your goal.

Lauryncakes | Lauryn Hock said...

I, like you, have chronic pain. I have arthritis in my ankles and have had corrective surgery that only minimally reduces the pain. I f sometimes feel like those of us that suffer from one thing, suffer from a ton! I wish i could help you campaign but I am broke right now! Good luck in your endeavors and fight on!!

Khushboo Motihar said...

That is a great support system you've started for people who suffer. Kudos to you.

Manu Kalia said...

First time Iv'e heard about this. And will love to share it with friends. I love your post so inspiring

Franc said...

You are such a strong person. I really admire how you can be positive even with chronic pain. I'm sure it helps ease things.

Phylicia Marie Pineda said...

I'm definitely sharing the word out for this one. I'm sure this book will help other people feeling the same way.

Gil Camporazo said...

It seems impossible to think it that there is joy in pain. In your case, you're too strong to overcome those painful experiences in your life since you're a kid and even when you've grown up. Now I realize why there is joy in pain because of positiveness among those affected as they're enlivened by love, hope and inspiration and it is possible.

papaleng said...

I can't imagine what painful predicament you have been. But good thing, you have overcome the pain. Don't you ever try suicide again.

Eliz Frank said...

Chronic pain can be very debilitating and often people don't quite grasp the degree of suffering it can bring into a family. You are getting the word out with this post, our groups and any Facebook forum you join. Add your voice to other online forums that will help you spread the word. Congratulations on your new book!

Tyler Hope said...

I appreciate your honesty and your positivity regarding the pain in your life. I think Positivity in Pain sounds like a great idea, and I hope you'll keep us all informed of any ways that we can be helpful!

Vanessa said...

I like the concept behind Positivity in Pain, so I would like to wish a lot of success to that e-book. I also love to have something tangible in my hands, so I am looking forward the paper version as well.

Jaclyn Anne said...

Your positive attitude is so inspiring!

Kat Sterrett said...

Girl, amazing. Just amazing. We're glad you're here, and glad you're feeling better. Let me see if I can muster up some support for your book :)

Jason P. said...

I can't imagine how hard life must be. :( Just keep up that amazing perspective! :D

christine gallagher said...

its a horrible disease that many suffer from I hope you can find some relief along the way

The Joys of Boys said...

I'm sorry you are dealing with chronic pain. I hope you get the support you need for your book.

Pam / Hey, Miss Adventures! said...

It's very brave of you to have shared something very personal. You are an amazing individual. Do continue to inspire as all.

Daf Benosa said...

Your story is inspiring. Last year I was diagnosed with arthritic back pain. Still have it to this day so I can relate to your condition. I appreciate your effort in spreading positivity, I will definitely share this. :)

Tricia Artim said...

You have a powerful story! I have so many friends who live with chronic pain, and I cannot even begin to imagine their day to day struggles! I am so glad that you have taken this initiative to help others who suffer from chronic pain! Great post and keep up the great work!

Crystal Green said...

This book sounds like a great thing to get published. Have you considered using CreateSpace? https://www.createspace.com/Products/Book/
I hope this helps you in some way.
If you do get this book published in book form, I have a good friend who would really benefit from reading it I'm sure.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world. I hope it gets in print soon!

Keelie Reason said...

Wow, I can't imagine what you have been going through with your health. I am so proud of you for not taking your life, and choosing to help others with your story.

Jennifer Small said...

Great idea to gather all your thoughts in a book to share with others. Best of luck as you spread the word! :-)

Tami @ This Mom's Delight said...

It breaks my heart to know someone has can contemplated or attempted suicide. I pray that others out there find the hope to continue living. I will definitely share your book and story with others.

Barbara James said...

I am so sorry to hear you are suffering with this but admire your positive attitude.

Deb Wolf said...

Thank you for turning your struggle into something positive to bless others. You're right many live with chronic pain. And I think almost everyone lives with some degree of chronic discomfort. Your encouragement and your story is sure to be a blessing!

Cross Seven said...

I am so sorry you have had to experience so much pain and suffering. It is great you are using your experiences to help others.

Cami Hall said...

Thank you for being so real and sharing your story. I am struggling with Post-Partum Depression now, and it is always relieving to hear people talk so openly about their experiences with their depression. So thank you so much for sharing! I am truly sorry for your pain, but like a previous commenter said, you are inspiring for using that pain to help others. I'm going to look at your book now- I have a few people I know with chronic pain that could use it!

Bonnie Way said...

Hugs to you! I have friends who live in chronic pain... my aunt has fibromialgia and another friend of mine has had undiagnosed illness/pain for several years. You're so brave to share your story - I hope it helps and blesses many others! Good luck with this project. :)

Alice Sibley said...

Thank you for sharing this and for your honesty. Chronic pain and illness is depressing, but that doesn't have to be all it is. Thank you for finding relief from the pain and depression by helping others. There is always so much more to live for.

craftystaci.com said...

I have a chronic disease as well, and one of the worst parts of it for me is when people ask how I am EVERY time they see me. I know they mean well, but it just reminds me of my own frailty. It's great you found a support group, and I hope you reach all of your goals with your book!

Jaime said...

I also have a chronic disease and it does make things challenging. But like you, I am able to recognize all of the wonderful things and people around me and what a difference it makes. Congratulations on this wonderful accomplishment!

Val @ Love My DIY Home said...

I too am a fibromite and have reflux - I feel your pain, literally! Keep your chin up, you can learn to live with it as I have and it's great you've written a book to help others. It helps to learn from others. Mine began at the teenage years too.

Katisha Moss said...

My sister also suffers from fibromyalgia and fell into a deep depression over it. I am going to send her to your blog.

Ashley Tannock said...

I suffer from a different kind of illness but I can feel your pain. It is physically and emotionally draining. I applaud your positive outlook and wish you all the best with the book.

Michelle Cruz said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I know someone with Fibro and I pray for people who have that daily! You are amazing!

Michelle H said...

I have several family members suffering from fybromyalgia and other chronic pain maladies. I'm so impressed with your uplifting attitude. Good luck with the project.

Cristin Frank said...

It took me years to find a publisher for my book, but when I did it was a super exciting stamp in my book of personal achievements. Persistence will pay off. All the best!

Shelle said...

It takes courage to get up each day and live with paid. I applaude you for getting up each day and turning it into something positive. Sharing on social media!

Dancinmoma said...

What a amazing story of strength and perseverance. I applaud your efforts to share your story to help others as well.

Art From My Table said...

Thank you for a real and honest post. I'm so happy you did not take your life and you are reaching out to help others.

Cristina T said...

I love that you were able to stick with it for 3 years to chronicle the day to day, up to and including your attempted suicide. Look at the impact you're having (and have already had).

Hugs to you!

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Kelly Johnson said...

What a beautiful way to look at life. Finding the positive in any situation makes it easier to bear.

Felecia Efriann said...

I like that your eventual response to your challenges in life was to help others who may be facing the same thing. It is incredible to see. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story, with a positive twist.

NovemberSunflower AND StaciandherScorpios said...

I was diagnosed with Endo as well, and I can barely handle that kind of pain each month. I also had a headache for three years straight. Same headache, never went away, for three years.
Even with that, I can't even imagine what you must go through each day. Plus, you wrote a book. AMAZING.

Phyllis Sather said...

I love your positive attitude. Keep going. Thanks for sharing your story.

Daily Momtivity said...

It seems like you have been through a lot in your life. I'm so sorry for that. The good news is you are turning into something great. That's awesome! We need to spread the news on this!

Susie Fruitcake said...

Hi Jennifer - I also suffer with IBS so I know how awful that can be but I can highly recommend the low-fodmap diet. I have had IBS for about 20+ years but finally have got my symptoms under control. Every morning I wake up so happy just to be pain free. If I can help - please stop by my blog and say hello. x

Trena Quesenberry said...

Wow, you're dealing with a lot. I'm glad you have made something positive come of it though.

Elizabeth Ann Duke said...

I cannot even imagine what this must have been like for you. I commend you for finding a way to find some positivity in your life, despite the constant reminder of living in pain. I hope that you continue to do well.

Lisa Park said...

That would be so hard to go through something that rough. What an amazing thing for you to turn it around into something positive where you can then try to help others.

MomHomeGuide.com said...

Congrats on your book! Sorry to hear about your constant pain. I've had some annoying pain in recent months (muscle pain related to a low thyroid condition), and it has been annoying. But nothing, I am sure, compared to what you have been through. I hope that everything continues to look up for you!

Hiking the NW said...

What a great attitude to have! I have heard terrible things about Fibromyalgia. You are a fighter!

Melissa Vera said...

This sounds like such an awesome book. It is only through our pain can we find what we are truly grateful for.