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Monday, November 12, 2018

Nancy Behrman: A True Go-Getter

Nancy Behrman, a self-motivated and highly motivated career woman is at the forefront of her industry. She currently owns and runs her own business, Behrman Communications. She began her business out of her studio apartment approximately thirty years ago. Behrman wasn’t satisfied with the PR options of old, and decided to go her own way and jump in with both feet, beginning Behrman Communications. Since then, she has earned respect from all kinds of people from all walks of life including celebrity aestheticians, doctors of dermatology and plastic surgery, makeup artists and more.

When asked how her life experience made her the leader she is today she says that going out at 25 years old was definitely a motivating factor for her. She said, “Failure simply wasn’t an option,” for her. She had begun her own business venture, and thus she needed to wear a lot of hats, like owner and leader of her own business. She steadily grew into the leadership role more as time went on.

With a fierce work ethic, she made certain to get to know the right people in the media. Even at the tender age of 22 she made friends with magazine assistants, often going out for drinks and renting beach houses together in the summer. This industry soon became her lifestyle and gave her the connections needed to start her own business.

Behrman had started her career at Kiehl’s Since 1851, and shared a special relationship with CEO Jami Heidegger, with them both being the same age. They shared a symbolic relationship. Heidegger let her try what she wanted in the way of PR, no matter how unconventional it was. Soon, Kiehl’s wasn’t a brand name only heard in the underground, but one that everyone was hearing.

Behrman’s advice to women who want a career in the PR industry is to be “whole heartedly comitted; ambivalence is no good in this industry, or in any aspect of life for that matter.” She is also a big advocate of owning your mistakes.

In her thirty years in business, the importance of achieving a balance between her work and personal lives are one of the biggest lessons she has learned. Even now she says that it is still a work in progress. There were times that she recalled being so committed to her agency that her personal life suffered, with the exception of her children, they always came first to her. Since realizing her personal life had suffered, she now has started working remotely from her home, exercising and even taking vacations. She says it gives her a “greater sense of balance” to her life, and makes her a better boss as well.

Behrman admires many other female leaders, with some of them being Tina Brown, Gwynne Thomas, a TV producer, Nicky Kinnaird, founder of Space NK, and Jami Heidegger, founder of Kiehl’s Since 1851. In the coming year, Behrman hopes to accomplish many things like having every person that is ready to be promoted to be promoted with a new title and salary. She would also like to see her own team to seek out new businesses on their own.

All in all, Nancy Behrman is a go-getter, highly-motivated self-starter who jumped right in, and wasn’t afraid to take risks. She is a successful businesswoman and is an inspiration to all girl-bosses around the world.

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Saturday, October 27, 2018

InterStim Update #1

If you've been following this blog for a while now, you'll know that I've been in chronic pain for years. The pain has caused me to pass out, and as a result, I have had my license taken away. I'm a mom who basically has to rely on her own mom (when husband is at work) to shuttle myself and my son around. Yep, it's kind of a crap situation to be in.

For years, doctors went back and forth, as to whether or not I actually had endometriosis. One said I did, another said I didn't. Earlier this year, I began seeing a doctor who agreed to do a surgery to see once and for all if I did have endometriosis. He at least did the right thing, and biopsied the tissue, instead of eyeing it up and judging it that way. Biopsy came back positive for endometriosis. But, I digress.

I proceeded to tell him about my chronic left-side pelvic pain, that's been there since Syrus was born. I even passed out in the office once, but that's a tale I'll regale you with another time. Point is, this guy, this doctor, must actually have human emotions. Because let me tell you, he tried everything for me. He even prescribed me pain medication during a particularly bad spell. I've come to his office crying. One time in his office, he thought of a possible out there solution. Sacral Neuromodulation. It's a device, also known as InterStim. It stimulates certain nerves, as you can tell from the link. He thought that maybe, just maybe that it would be worth a shot. At this point, why the hell not?

It's a two-step process, though. It's about a week trial, with the stimulators in my back, stimulating the nerves, with me controlling it via Bluetooth remotes. This is to see if the stimulators will actually work for me. Boy-howdy, though. The first surgery, I had to be awake for as they shoved needles into my back and jiggle them around to find the right nerves. But then the table I was on didn't work. So he had to take the needles out. Move me to a different operating table and re-insert the needles. I will admit that I totally bawled like a baby in the operating room. But I have my temporary stimulators in. I did it. #BadAssStatus

And GUESS THE HELL WHAT? I have taken barely a thing for pain. Sure, a Tylenol here and there for some post surgery pain or a headache, but that's it. I do not feel my left side pain. Can you believe it? After seven years, seven straight years of hell, day in and day out? I give my final decision as to whether I want the semi-permanent InterStim batteries (they last 5 years) put in underneath my skin on Wednesday (Halloween!), and my answer is obviously going to be a resounding HELL YES. My second surgery to implant the batteries is already scheduled for Friday, November 2nd.

Can you imagine? My life, no more passing out? No more curled up on the couch crying?
Playing with my son? Getting involved in his school activities? BEING A MOM?

Now, obviously, this has nothing to do with endometriosis. That will always be there. It will grow. I will likely have to get surgeries every couple of years. At this point it's wrapped around my left ureter, and I have to see what to do about that. He also had found it attached my bowel to my abdominal wall. So, we'll see what happens with that. But no one could ever pin down exactly what the left-side pelvic pain was. Still can't, but at least I have the option of no more pain. I can't wait to see what the future holds.

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

World Mental Health Day 2018: Looking Back & Moving Forward

Looking back, they say that you shouldn't do that, because you're not going that way. But for me, looking back is actually a good thing. It means that I can turn around and look at the experiences and learn from them, and then turn right back around and walk away from the past, and right into my future. 

Mental illness began very early on for me, settling in, and making its home inside my mind at the tender age of nine years old. I remember it vividly. The depression, hitting me like a ton of bricks. Sure, I went to school like any regular kid would do. But when I came home, I would do my homework, and then I would proceed to lay in bed and sleep, or even better, hide behind the couch and cry, where nobody could find me. 

Sure, it most likely stemmed from me learning of my father's diagnosis of AIDS, and as time went on, my parent's got me to a psychiatrist, who put me on all the wrong medications, of which my parents then proceeded to pull me off of. Then my OCD began to come 'round and play. Those days were always so much fun. That was sarcasm, if you couldn't tell. 

I live with Purely Obsessional OCD, amongst other things, but these intrusive thoughts, thoughts that are fleeting for the typical human mind, play about over, and over and over in my head, like a broken record that won't stop playing, and I can't reach the record player to make it stop. Luckily, my psychiatrist and I have been working together for a long time, trying to find what works and what doesn't for me, and after about 6 years, we found that delicate balance of what medications work and their dosages. 

I'm not going to lie and sugar coat things, living with mental illness can be downright scary at times. I mean, a good chunk of the year I was in a depressive episode, sleeping all day, wanting to cry when I was awake, not wanting to do anything, even eat, or take care of myself. But I had to pull myself out of that rut, that vicious and harmful cycle, not only for myself, but for my family. It was hard to do, I won't deny that. There are still days that I want to lay down and cry, but I have to tell myself no, I have a life to live.

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Dear Syrus

Dear Syrus,

What can I say? You're eight years old now. And you finally have a cousin on the way! Aunt Jessy is pregnant! I know that's the greatest gift that you'll want, because for so long you've wanted a playmate. Though you two may be years apart, I know you will both be close and lifelong friends.

Gosh, there is so much to say, little man. So much. The fact that you are a little man now. Going into the third grade...where did that time go? I constantly ask myself that question, as I am sure a lot of moms do when their babies grow up.

You make daddy and I so proud each and every day, with your handsome smile and your infectious giggles. You do bring sunshine everywhere you go. You're growing up, there is no denying that. In growing up, you're learning so much more about the world, and I love it when you come to me with your newly learned facts and tidbits. Third grade is going to be so much fun for you!

You are such a gentleman and very well mannered. There isn't anything that I would change about you, my little lovebug. I've had a blast this summer learning and growing along with you! I look forward to many more summers with you, #SummerSy.

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Looking For Something to Do With Your Kids? Try this!

Summer is approaching and the question hangs heavy like humid air in the minds of all parents, “what can I do with the kids that is outdoors, healthy, and fun for everyone?” I have your answer, dear parent.

Ride a Scooter With the Kids

Scooters are quickly becoming the most family-friendly outdoor gear. This is because they are a fun activity in and of themselves, or they can accompany almost any other activity or family adventure. For instance:

  • Take your kids to the park and play a scooter game (read on for game suggestions)
  • Ride scooters to the swimming pool
  • Take your scooters on vacation to tour the sights
  • Take scooters to the beach and ride the boardwalk
  • Ride scooters to the local baseball or soccer game
  • Take scooters to the skatepark and watch the kids practice (or get in there with them!)

The list goes on. Scooters are excellent for cardiovascular health and an easy way to make good use of a nice day. Even cruising around the neighborhood with the kids is a great way to break up an afternoon at the house.

There are scooter models for all ages, and I recommend investigating which model is best for your child(ren). Whether you have wee little ones that you need to carry on your back while you ride an adult kick scooter, or you have a preteen who will fit best on a two-wheeled scooter such as the Fuzion X-5, there are different model options to best suit your family’s needs. Scooters are less cumbersome than bicycles and so it is easier to pack them into a trunk and drive to a riding destination, like the park or a beach boardwalk.

Scooter Game Ideas

Playing scooter games raises endorphins and happiness levels. If children are very young, games involving scoot boards may not improve cardiovascular health as much as children’s motor skills and their vestibular apparatus. With older children, cardiovascular and muscular health can improve with games for kick scooters.

For scoot boards (recommended ages 2-4): set up a few shoe boxes or paper towel rolls. Your child lays belly down and arms out in front on a scoot board. The adult is the “bowler” and the child on the scoot board is the “bowling ball.” I think you can figure out the rest from here ;)

For kick scooters (recommended ages 5+): put helmets on heads, sunglasses on faces, and hand a pool noodle (you know - those cylindrical, foam floating things) to the contestants. The contestants must then ride 15 -20 yards in opposite directions before turning around to face each other. You are now in position for a jousting contest. May the best person win!  (Works best in the cup of two very small inclines.)

Scooters Are a Safe, Fun Activity For the Whole Family

Whether you go to the park and ride a scooter with the kids, or you all play a fun game in the driveway, scooters enhance any day. They are just plain FUN! Nothing gets kids more excited than zipping down a sidewalk on a scooter. Furthermore, the less bulky design offers a safety measure that is invaluable to parents. I know first-hand that riding a bicycle next to a 6-year old who is also riding a bicycle is a bit nerve wracking. As the adult, I would rather be with my feet on the ground while little Johnny weebles and wobbles down the path.

With scooters, that safety issue is null and void. Children are safer. They ride three inches from the ground and can easily put their foot down. It becomes a fun, family-friendly adventure when mom or dad can ride WITH their children. We all know that kids love to play with their parents, so get out there and scoot around with them.

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Sunday, March 11, 2018

O, Generalization?

So, everyone knows by now, that I am not a well person. I suffer from multiple chronic illnesses, and pass out here, there and nearly everywhere. Well, I've had a catheter in since last Monday, and I went to have it removed, and well, long story short, I passed out in my doctors office, woke up, started choking because I thought I had to throw up, lost my breath, blah, blah, blah, they ended up calling 911. Fun fun fun. Hey, that rhymes! 

Anyway, the ambulance squad arrived and got me calmed down, and took me back to the ER, where I was the night before. But it was along the ambulance ride that really got me fired up. You know how someone always rides in the back with you in an ambulance? Yeah, someone was riding in the back with me. They were doing their normal job, asking about my medical history, and of course, medications. When they got to my Valium (Yes, I'm on Valium), he said "Woah, what're you on that for?" I said my OCD. 

Then what he said next sent my blood boiling. He said "Oh, you must be one of those people who needs to have everythiing in order." I wanted to scream EXCUSE ME? That is not the only type of OCD that there is out there. I wished that people would recognize that. What do I suffer from? I'm not the person who needs to have everything in order, or needs to tap my foot ten times, though I understand those who do.

I have Pure O. Which I will explain a little more about below. 

Pure O means Purely Obsessional. All I have are thoughts. Merely thoughts. Well, not merely. They aren't mere, by any means at all. They are scary thoughts. 

Here, I will let Intrusive Thoughts do the talking for me. "Harm OCD is a common subset of OCD in which sufferers are constantly worried about causing harm to themselves or others. These thoughts are so common that 85% of the non-OCD population admits to having unwanted violent thoughts, including thoughts about harming themselves and loved ones.
However, for Harm OCD sufferers, the presence and frequency of these thoughts is debilitating. They are far more upsetting than occasional images or thoughts of violence. They are repetitive, graphic and can get in the way of completing simple, day-to-day tasks."
Alright, that's out there. Yes, I have harm OCD. Yes, I've not admitted that to too many people. Do you even know how SCARY that is? 
But Intrusive Thoughts also said this:
"Having intrusive thoughts does not make you a bad person. They are a misfiring in the brain, not a reflection of your character."
My psychiatrist has reassured me hundreds of times over that my thoughts are ego-dystonic, meaning that they are the furthest thing from my character and person that I would never ever do anything that pops into my head.
*breathes* *whoo* 
That was a big admission. But I knew it was coming someday. I want to educate others about OCD, and Pure O, and Harm OCD, because I'm not ashamed, it is real and the stigma needs to end! 

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

6 Things I Love Being About Your Mom

There are so many things in this world to love about family. I learned that when I created my own little family with my husband. When we had our son, Syrus, we found out what love truly is. Our little love was born. My little mini-muffin, as I like to call him. He may be a little pain sometimes - I mean, what kid isn't? But there are so many things to love about my little guy!

1. He's A Lovebug

Anytime someone is upset or crying, he will come up to them and give them a hug. If there are tissues handy, he will run and grab run, and come running back and give it to the sad person. I can't count how many times he has done this for me.

2. Soccer Star

He loves to play soccer! He's in year 5, I think, if my calculations are correct! He's growing up so fast! He enjoys playing with the other kids, kicking the ball around, and just having a grand old time with the kids and having fun.

3. Silly Syrus 

Oh, the things that comes out of this kid's mouth! There are so many things. He's said things in public that could get me arrested, or for example, standing on a stool, he proudly yells, "I like being high!" and boy do we have to control our laughter! He's a walking laugh factory, he always can make me laugh and bring my spirits up, and I love him for that.

4. Dapper Gent

He is a proper gentleman. We have taught him to say please and thank you and to be kind to others. He has done very well with this, and we are very proud of him for it.

5. He's A Ladies Man 

He's too cute when it comes to girls, he is the shyest little thing in the world. But put him in front of a camera, and boom, instant ladies man. He's like "Hey girls!" With those gorgeous baby blues that he has, I wouldn't don't he would be a lady-killer, but for now, thank goodness, he is still my baby, my shy little Shyrus. Eh, eh, see what I did there?

6. He's Artistic

He's recently taken up drawing, and it's so cool to see how he progresses. I actually pulled a picture of a koala out of his school folder one day and was flabbergasted at how good it actually was! It's neat to watch how it goes along and what else he draws and brings home from school!

Syrus, I love you so very much, know that, even on my "down days," even when I don't feel well, that mommy loves you with every fiber of her being and would do anything and everything for you. You are my world, my life, and my love. Thank you for being my little love.